tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5258262485760542880.post5508153045547556540..comments2024-02-26T04:06:55.128-08:00Comments on When the Stork Gets Confused: <br> What to Expect when You're Adopting: Choosing an ethical agencyJesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03988211773200305175noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5258262485760542880.post-41430020748991794222015-06-22T16:22:23.385-07:002015-06-22T16:22:23.385-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03988211773200305175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5258262485760542880.post-13310144665921461692015-06-22T16:22:22.187-07:002015-06-22T16:22:22.187-07:00Kaye-
I absolutely agree. I do mention examining ...Kaye-<br />I absolutely agree. I do mention examining how an agency's website discusses the father to make sure that they aren't making him seem like an irrelevant figure, but you make a good point about some states having problematic policies as a whole. We personally chose to not consider any agency that operates out of Utah, and their reputation for mishandling paternity issues played a big role in that. I'm sure there are many adoption workers in Utah that are honest and ethical, but we just weren't comfortable with some of the reports of how multiple agencies there circumvent paternal rights. We believe that a child should have the opportunity to know both of their biological parents, so sending the message of "don't worry about him" when discussing the biodad is simply not something we want to support. <br /><br />Thanks for the comment! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03988211773200305175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5258262485760542880.post-51496214151150424592015-06-22T16:08:08.871-07:002015-06-22T16:08:08.871-07:00Kaye-
I absolutely agree. I do mention examining ...Kaye-<br />I absolutely agree. I do mention examining how an agency's website discusses the father to make sure that they aren't making him seem like an irrelevant figure, but you make a good point about some states having problematic policies as a whole. We personally chose to not consider any agency that operates out of Utah, and their reputation for mishandling paternity issues played a big role in that. I'm sure there are many adoption workers in Utah that are honest and ethical, but we just weren't comfortable with some of the reports of how multiple agencies there circumvent paternal rights. We believe that a child should have the opportunity to know both of their biological parents, so sending the message of "don't worry about him" when discussing the biodad is simply not something we want to support. <br /><br />Thanks for the comment! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03988211773200305175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5258262485760542880.post-8067336551114155682015-06-22T15:49:17.011-07:002015-06-22T15:49:17.011-07:00When investigating adoption agencies, are you also...When investigating adoption agencies, are you also considering the rights of the father? It takes both a man and a woman to create a baby, and both should have an equal voice in what happens to the child.<br /><br />Are you dealing with an agency in a state (like Utah) that, in an effort to "streamline" adoptions, does its best to circumvent fathers' rights? Has the agency made sure that all potential fathers have been notified? Yes, each state has a Putative Father Registry, but do we really expect men to list the name of every sexual partner they've ever had, just in case one gets pregnant? <br /><br />"Ethical" goes beyond making sure the mother's rights are protected.kayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867231123908961933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5258262485760542880.post-72325788537517025332015-06-09T09:29:46.812-07:002015-06-09T09:29:46.812-07:00Robyn- It has to be infrequently and in very smal...Robyn- It has to be infrequently and in very small doses! :) I guess I just see it as another way to avoid some of the things that can cause so much hurt. I've really enjoyed reading your blog (especially your Robyn's Adoption Land series) as we prepare to go through this process. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03988211773200305175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5258262485760542880.post-65045680014366604242015-06-08T23:37:22.743-07:002015-06-08T23:37:22.743-07:00This is a very informative post. I'm rather im...This is a very informative post. I'm rather impressed that you're able to read Claudia's blog. Between the hatred and the writing errors, I just can't do it. Thanks for linking to me!Robyn Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10354355040845413097noreply@blogger.com